General Discussion

@End0scrypt hmm, here's an article about the difference between Bigender and Genderfluid, hope it helps! :D

hi i am bisexual trans ftm and i wanted to ask a funny question: are there any other fellows here that went through the whole cis lesbian -> trans gay pipeline?? ive heard its a suuuuper common experience and just wanted to see if there was anyone else like me lmao

@bagelmonarch

I was cis lesbian and now I'm a trans lesbian ::3

cis/bi, always been, and man, I feel invalid as heck. Whenever I see posts about being bi and it's like "lol cuffing your jeans and sitting wrong and buttons and butch/femme and--" I just can't relate!! It's like I'm the only bisexual on Earth who sucks at it or something. I get all the irl people that tell me I'm going to hell or kicking me from their groups, and all the online people who just treat it like a fandom with a uniform and quirky personality traits I just don't measure up to. It's like no matter where I am, I don't fit in.
/vent lol sorry

trans and amasculine here!! i dont know what label to use for my sexuality yet though... sob

i've known i've liked girls for about 3ish years now, but i only started identifying as amasculine about a year ago. i'm still trying to figure out how i feel about boys- i don't hate the idea of dating one, but i've never met one that i've actually felt any kind of attraction to. i'm also fairly certain that i'm cupiosexual!
i also identify with a LOT of different xenogenders... not going to list them here because there's way too many but feel free to pm me if you're interested in hearing about them :D

(don't try to throw labels my way, please. i've tried a lot of different ones and none have felt right... i think i'm just going to go unlabeled, but i'm not sure yet.)

@AmethystRose1958 those are just silly stereotypes, they don't apply to everyone. saying that cuffing your jeans makes you bisexual is pretty ridiculous lol. those people are just joking around, your identity is your own and nobody else can "invalidate" it :)

@kuroikumo

;u; thanks. I wish I could "like" or star your comment lol, I'm really grateful to hear that from somebody.

@AmethystRose1958 of course, it's something i've struggled with in the past so i get it. like there are some lesbian stereotypes that i stray sooo far outside of, but everyone has their own experience and at the end of the day stereotypes apply to some but not to all!

@bagelmonarch i am trans bisexual and i only realised i was attracted to men after i figured out my gender, and before that i identified as lesbian!! It is indeed a very common experience and I think I've realised at least for me why it was the case.
I hated the idea of being a girlfriend to a dude, while in a wlw partnership I at least wouldnt exclusively be the "woman" of the relationship. Turns out it wasnt being with a dude that made me uncomfortable, it was the position I would be put in in such a dynamic. When I figured out my gender more I realised that I can like.. be with a dude as a dude it was pretty chill ahaha.
I remember being around 13 and like "wow if i was a boy i would be gay.. gay love is so cool and guys who like guys are awesome. too bad im a girl. so men arent for me" LOL shouldve been a sign but :) thats my musings, I imagine some other ppl in this pipeline (not all though ofc!) might have had a similar experience.