General Discussion

Bi woman here, not at all out to my parents. We are close, but they are homophobic for religious reasons (they'd be nice, but the "love the sinner" kind of thing), and I'm not sure what would happen. I currently live with them by necessity.

I live in Texas, so I have to be very careful about who I come out to. It is frustrating. I can't leave, and even if I could not sure I would (I'm an immigration attorney, and I think I can do good here). But it is exhausting sometimes having to hide that part of me. I'm single, but if I ever started dating a woman, I'm not sure what I'd do.

@smallestdogs

Sexuality can totally change. Many people seem to think that for everyone, their sexuality is the same from beginning to end. But that isn't always true.

Me, I didn't realize I was bisexual because I refused to admit I was into women too due to a homophobic upbringing that was internalized. But for others their sexuality does genuinely change.

[quote name="StarrberryPills" date="2022-03-03 06:38:19" ] there was a brief discussion of trans hcs on my twitter feed and it made me realize that no one really does any transneu hcs and i felt very left out as a whole lol....... [/quote] I haven’t seen the term “transneu” used much (tbh, it’s still a new term for me. I’ve only really seen it here + on an enby subreddit. Once it gains more traction, you’ll probably see more) but there definitely are enby headcannons out there! I think the lack of them is because the majority of trans people are binary, and prefer to headcannon characters they can relate to (e.g. a trans girl would headcannon trans fems, and a trans guy may headcannon trans mascs) However, if you want to here mine… I imagine Luke from the Sarah Jane Adventures (Doctor Who spin-off) as nonbinary! Throughout the series, there are jokes about them not understanding gender norms, and as they were created as an “archetype” of both male and female humans, it makes sense they would probably be enby in some way!

[quote name="LemonySnaket" date="2022-03-03 11:21:59" ] [quote name="StarrberryPills" date="2022-03-03 06:38:19" ] there was a brief discussion of trans hcs on my twitter feed and it made me realize that no one really does any transneu hcs and i felt very left out as a whole lol....... [/quote] I haven’t seen the term “transneu” used much (tbh, it’s still a new term for me. I’ve only really seen it here + on an enby subreddit. Once it gains more traction, you’ll probably see more) but there definitely are enby headcannons out there! I think the lack of them is because the majority of trans people are binary, and prefer to headcannon characters they can relate to (e.g. a trans girl would headcannon trans fems, and a trans guy may headcannon trans mascs) However, if you want to here mine… I imagine Luke from the Sarah Jane Adventures (Doctor Who spin-off) as nonbinary! Throughout the series, there are jokes about them not understanding gender norms, and as they were created as an “archetype” of both male and female humans, it makes sense they would probably be enby in some way! [/quote] for me it's like i want to hc one of my comfort characters as transneumasc, but i immediately got called a weirdo [emoji=skydancer sad size=1] i just want make myself comfy

i have so many trans hcs that sometimes i forget they arent real

luffy (one piece)? trans boy. zoro (one piece) and shinji (eva)? trans girls. legoshi (beastars)? masc-aligned nb. there's a bunch more that i cant think of right now but i know that when i see them i just. feel it.

i also made a beastars oc who is a trans girl deer! she's very self-conscious about her antlers. she looks kinda like louis but with spots and wider antlers.

I might come out to one of my friends, I think he'll be accepting but I'm nervous.

@Dvnch

I know everyone says this but it's really important for you to be comfortable first. Make sure you're ready to come out to them and not pressure yourself into telling them <3

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And hi! I'm NB and pan. Luckily I haven't had too many bad experiences, I've been pretty lucky except with one of my parents. I'm also not out about being NB to my parents because they're not really on board with other genders...

Update: It went well! And now that's one less person who I don't have to hide myself around.

@EuclaseAngel Thanks! At first I was nervous but then I took a deep breath and just went with it.