General Discussion

"See, it wasn't that bad/a big deal."

I hate it so much. Especially since it's often said in a condescending tone.

Like, nice acting like my worry or whatever ahead of time was unimportant or unneeded. A lot of the time I know I don't need to freak out about it but I. Can't. Help. It. Sometimes. And I really don't need to have people being crappy at me towards it when I feel bad enough already for freaking out.

Please care. Or at least, please keep your mouth shut about it.

Like, phones make me panic. Like, I'm often shaking after I finish the call. Please do not make me talk on the phone, and if I absolutely have to, please don't act like I'm a whiny baby over it when it gets me all anxious. That doesn't help at all.

Just because it wasn't worthy of the worry or emotion (and not even just freaking out, I'll be anxious or worried without being wild about it and still get that crap) beforehand doesn't mean you should be rude about it.


Also ditto on the "could care less" thing. A couple songs I know have that phrase instead of the right one and it bugs me. I try and fix it when I'm singing one of those two songs though.

has anyone said "everything happens for a reason" yet? Because it is just so irritating.
"Oh, your grandma died? You got robbed? Don't worry sweety, everything happens for a reason ((:"

"You'll understand when..."
Usually it's "when you have kids" or things like that.

Or "you think THAT'S bad?" I don't play pity olympics.

So I read through the thread and I both feel stuff and feel bad for stuff?

I'm slow with adjusting to using words and phrases I didn't know (mostly "cool words", "normal" words aren't that bad) that are very common, but once I talk to people a lot I'll start using some of the words too. Like hm, I normally say dog but in the right environment I'll say doggo a couple of times. Abbreviations too.

I've never seen "could care less"? Only ever "couldn't". Do I live under a rock? The only time I've seen it was when I wrote it in the context of "I could care less but I don't really care enough to [whatever]."

Your/you're, they're/their throws me off. I've never had a problem with grammar in my native language and I guess my English grammar is good enough for many situations (at least at school I never had a problem with it, it all depends on who I compare myself with) so I'm really not in a position to judge it, I know English good enough to be able to tell if they taught me wrong or if others make mistakes and I make. It still surprised me to see how common mixing them up is, and it's frustrating to realize you've been messing up writing a language just because everyone makes the mistake and you actually learned it right at school. We did learn certain pronunciations and use of a few words wrong for some reason, so hey, it's not impossible!
I should just learn to check everything I hear instead of being angry at myself afterwards.

"No offense" is something I can agree with. I hate being told that. Not because it offends me because it usually doesn't, but because I feel forced to be offended. To me it sounds like they're saying "you're so fragile, I know you're gonna be offended but I'll say don't because you can't deal with the world" in most occasions. Sure, not always, and I don't mention it when I'm addressed directly, I get it's likely not normally used that way. I also don't like the word [someone] problem but I do have a lot of me problems. It's the only way I'd accept using it XD

"You just don't see it." Yes, that's often the case, but never when this sentence gets thrown around. Why can't I have a feeling for whether jokes etc have a negative impact on my aggression? Just an example for when people who don't know me say not super nice language inevitable makes people do cruel things to others. But of course I know I don't, or at least didn't, know myself well so as long as I don't have any good arguments I won't say no, that's definitely not the case.

Also something I feel weird about is people calling themselves weird and unique when they want people to stop disliking what they love although there are sooo many people they personally know that think the exact same thing. Sorry but I have absolutely no admiration for this kind of "uniqueness", like what you want, try to get me to like it, I love suggestions, but pleasedon't try to get me to feel bad about disliking it if you don't even bother to endure me talking about what I like for a minute. I'm pretty sure this is one of the ways I unlearned talking about things I love without getting unnecessarily nervous.

Phrases like, "No one is ugly; the world is just judgmental."

That is such a terrible attitude. Ugly people exist, and if that fact offends you, it sounds like you're the judgmental one. You're basically implying that if someone is not good-looking, they are inferior.

DoWn tO EaRtH

I don't know if this is an actual phrase in Western countries but 'is it a must?' grinds on my gears so much... it's not even gramatically correct. 'Long time no see' as well considering how it also has a sinophobic context

any variation of "well, we're all a little ___!"
no we all aren't gay. we all don't have ocd/adhd/bipolar/etc. stop downplaying the struggles of those that do!

I have a few just because they are over repeated and used so often around me.

"Delightful"
"True Story"
"Like"
"Fulfilling"
"One more time"-No you don't mean 1 more time!!!!!
"The reality is..."