General Discussion

I just want to rant a bit here:
My mom has decided ONCE AGAIN to take me to a therapist to try and "fix" me for being trans. She's just so... Bad about it. I hate it.

She says she supports me, but she just tolerated my existence and ignores me scraping along with what I have. That's not support. She even had the nerve to bring up in an argument about how she doesn't support me "well, I haven't thrown you out!" Like it made her the best parent.

It's infuriating. She's just so full of herself and mean and rude and intolerant it makes me furious. And I can't so anything about it because my dad supports her and my brother supports her and I feel like a damn stranger at the dinner table and it makes absolutely every moment I'm at home miserable.


I just don't know what to do about it anymore.

I'm surely not the best person to give you advice as I was born into a really tolerant family and although I don't strictly fit into gendertypes I'm not trans, but....

First I want to congratulate you for being strong enough not to let someone trick you into believing you might be expecting to much because as I read it you are absolutely right what your family does is no support and no real acceptance

Second, I think you should agree to see a therapist but only if you can have a say which one, once you're there explain the situation and try to get your mother to come with you, have the therapist explain to your mother that there is nothing wrong with you and how harmful and dangerous her behaviour is.

I f she can't accept the truth from you, maybe she changes her mind hearing it from someone like a therapist.

There may also be some groups, helplines etc. near you, who can help you and your family.

Stay strong and always know that you deserve respect, love, understanding and full acceptance from your family, these things are never too much to ask for!

im really sorry your family isnt tolerant or understanding, feeling like a stranger in your own home is a really horrible feeling :c

i dont think i can give much advice because my family has been generally pretty supportive of my identity and sexuality (or maybe "supportive of ignoring it and not causing issues" is more correct) but do you think the therapist might be a blessing in disguise? if youre able to pick a therapist who is trans friendly, they could be a helpful ally in making your family understand the situation, or alternatively an ally in finding a healthier environment for you to live in? at the very least, if they're trans friendly, it would be someone outside your family to talk to about the situation?

@SapphireEmber @Rumplestilzchen @Biago

I already have been to this certain therapist before, and he's already agreed that whenever I'm ready and my parents say yes (or I come of age) I can start on hormone therapy. So he's fantastic. He's honestly just really great.

But the fact my mom wants to try and "fix" me is the aggravating part. I've got no ( adult) family that's able to help me.

My parents both just refuse to listen. When I try to talk to them I get double teamed two against one and never am able to make my point because apparently I'm being selfish and it's just a phase.

I'm not even kidding. My dad considers me wanting to go be the right pronouns and use the right name selfish.

@Lightscales I'm so sorry... At least you know that this is a part of who you are, and that this isn't something that needs to be fixed. I know we don't know each other, but - you can send me messages if you need to vent ^__^