Hey there. I've somewhat recently figured out that I'm nonbinary, and I go by they/them pronouns and am trying out he/him as well! I'm also thinking about maybe going by another name.
I get called ma'am, miss, lady, etc., at my job every day and I think this was one of the main factors that kickstarted me putting more thought into my gender. I realized that I don't like being called by those titles. When I get called "miss" I end up thinking about it long after the interaction and come away from it feeling very down, or negative, I don't know how to phrase it. When someone uses she/her pronouns for me, all I can think about is how much it doesn't fit or feel right for me personally to be called that. With they/them, it feels like it clicks perfectly, like "yes, this is it! This is me!"
I've tried coming out to my mom but I don't think she takes me seriously and still calls me she/her. Can't tell my dad because he's not cool with it, but my siblings have been supportive of me, and I'm very thankful for them.
Hey there. I've somewhat recently figured out that I'm nonbinary, and I go by they/them pronouns and am trying out he/him as well! I'm also thinking about maybe going by another name.
I get called ma'am, miss, lady, etc., at my job every day and I think this was one of the main factors that kickstarted me putting more thought into my gender. I realized that I don't like being called by those titles. When I get called "miss" I end up thinking about it long after the interaction and come away from it feeling very down, or negative, I don't know how to phrase it. When someone uses she/her pronouns for me, all I can think about is how much it doesn't fit or feel right for me personally to be called that. With they/them, it feels like it clicks perfectly, like "yes, this is it! This is me!"
I've tried coming out to my mom but I don't think she takes me seriously and still calls me she/her. Can't tell my dad because he's not cool with it, but my siblings have been supportive of me, and I'm very thankful for them.
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
[quote name="bookperson" date="2021-07-24 21:18:10" ]
I'm having some good old gender confusion, could I have some help? Essentially, what I'm wondering, is how exactly did you guys realize you were [insert gender]? Like for you was it like a feeling, and how what does it really feel like to be a gender? Of course only answer if you're comfortable!
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Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
bookperson wrote on 2021-07-24 21:18:10:
I'm having some good old gender confusion, could I have some help? Essentially, what I'm wondering, is how exactly did you guys realize you were [insert gender]? Like for you was it like a feeling, and how what does it really feel like to be a gender? Of course only answer if you're comfortable!
Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
[quote name="@pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:30:56" ]
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
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Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
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pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:30:56:
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
[quote name="Pesky" date="2021-07-25 14:43:41" ]
[quote name="@pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:30:56" ]
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
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Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
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Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
Pesky wrote on 2021-07-25 14:43:41:
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pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:30:56:
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
[quote name="pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:49:24" ]
[quote name="Pesky" date="2021-07-25 14:43:41" ]
[quote name="@pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:30:56" ]
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
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Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
[/quote]
Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
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Ayyy Hollowknight! I play mostly survival games like Raft or The Isle, but I'm also a bit of everything kind of guy.
pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:49:24:
Pesky wrote on 2021-07-25 14:43:41:
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pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:30:56:
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
Ayyy Hollowknight! I play mostly survival games like Raft or The Isle, but I'm also a bit of everything kind of guy.
[quote name="pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:38:36" ]
Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
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while this wasn't directed at me, I tend to browse through the thread sometimes and it really made me feel a lot better. I've been struggling with a lot of the same stuff, and I'm not much younger than you, and honestly I've been feeling super confused, frustrated with myself, invalid, etc. so, I just wanted to let you know that your post really helped me.
welcome to flight rising, i sent you a flight-themed care package! ^u^
pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:38:36:
Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
while this wasn't directed at me, I tend to browse through the thread sometimes and it really made me feel a lot better. I've been struggling with a lot of the same stuff, and I'm not much younger than you, and honestly I've been feeling super confused, frustrated with myself, invalid, etc. so, I just wanted to let you know that your post really helped me.
welcome to flight rising, i sent you a flight-themed care package! ^u^
[quote name="Deathstalker" date="2021-07-25 17:01:01" ]
[quote name="pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:38:36" ]
Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
[/quote]
while this wasn't directed at me, I tend to browse through the thread sometimes and it really made me feel a lot better. I've been struggling with a lot of the same stuff, and I'm not much younger than you, and honestly I've been feeling super confused, frustrated with myself, invalid, etc. so, I just wanted to let you know that your post really helped me.
welcome to flight rising, i sent you a flight-themed care package! ^u^
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This is so sweet, thank you so much!! You are very valid and I'm so glad I could help you feel a bit better :)
Deathstalker wrote on 2021-07-25 17:01:01:
pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:38:36:
Hey! I'm a 22 year old who is STILL struggling with my gender identity. Two things that helped me realize i wasn't CIS are gender euphoria and gender dysphoria. You can have both, one or the other, or neither, and still be trans though. Everyone has a different experience and you won't truly know until you experiment, just remember to take things at your own pace, and that theres never any shame in changing your mind. Our personal identities will grow as we age, and the labels are only there to give us a vocabulary to express ourselves and to connect to like minded communities, but gender is a beautiful and elaborate spectrum and no one can be simplified or neatly organized. I hope this helps!!
while this wasn't directed at me, I tend to browse through the thread sometimes and it really made me feel a lot better. I've been struggling with a lot of the same stuff, and I'm not much younger than you, and honestly I've been feeling super confused, frustrated with myself, invalid, etc. so, I just wanted to let you know that your post really helped me.
welcome to flight rising, i sent you a flight-themed care package! ^u^
This is so sweet, thank you so much!! You are very valid and I'm so glad I could help you feel a bit better :)
[quote name="Pesky" date="2021-07-25 14:59:00" ]
[quote name="pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:49:24" ]
[quote name="Pesky" date="2021-07-25 14:43:41" ]
[quote name="@pxl8td" date="2021-07-25 14:30:56" ]
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
[/quote]
Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
[/quote]
Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
[/quote]
Ayyy Hollowknight! I play mostly survival games like Raft or The Isle, but I'm also a bit of everything kind of guy.
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I've played a few survival games, most recently subnautica and grounded. I loved ark so I'll definitely check out The Isle! Are you a console user?
Pesky wrote on 2021-07-25 14:59:00:
pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:49:24:
Pesky wrote on 2021-07-25 14:43:41:
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pxl8td wrote on 2021-07-25 14:30:56:
Ay! I'm a genderfluid polyamourous pansexual, i just joined FR and i'm looking to make some queer friends :) If you're a gay gamer ping me!
Yo, welcome to FR! What games do you play?
Thank you! I play a bit of everything, minus multiplayer FPS. Right now I'm hooked Hollowknight and a free to play fighting game called brawlhalla. Hby?
Ayyy Hollowknight! I play mostly survival games like Raft or The Isle, but I'm also a bit of everything kind of guy.
I've played a few survival games, most recently subnautica and grounded. I loved ark so I'll definitely check out The Isle! Are you a console user?
[quote name="@capybaras" date="2021-07-25 01:52:03" ]
urgh im remembering that biphobia exists and i am Not feeling well
i feel sad and lonely and anxious abt my bisexuality like every week so it’s back for another round… any other bisexuals ever feel down abt their identity? how do you deal w it?
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In my experience, just talking with other bi/queer people about orientiation/identity or even anything else helps. Like, there's some stuff about being bi that I can only really talk about with other bi/queer people if that makes sense?
urgh im remembering that biphobia exists and i am Not feeling well
i feel sad and lonely and anxious abt my bisexuality like every week so it’s back for another round… any other bisexuals ever feel down abt their identity? how do you deal w it?
In my experience, just talking with other bi/queer people about orientiation/identity or even anything else helps. Like, there's some stuff about being bi that I can only really talk about with other bi/queer people if that makes sense?
