To be honest, I find internet friends quite hard to make.
Since most of the fandoms I'm in are from the other side of the world, it would be really hard to talk to them (in real-time especially) due to timezones and stuff.
In addition, I don't like sharing personal stuff with internet friends. The internet is a place where you aren't judged, which I'm grateful for but I am still very self-aware and scared with what I post. If sharing my problems with internet people is difficult, imagine how many people in real life I share my problems with.
Once we get to know each other, I'll probably not talk to them for a very, very long time unless completely necessary.
My friends come and go as I move fandoms. Some quit the game/social media they're in and I can never talk to them again.
They say that the internet makes you have more friends. To me, standing amongst so many people with so many internet friends, I actually feel lonelier.
This whole "loneliness" thing is my fault anyway, since I don't like and don't put in the effort to have a long conversation with someone. The internet is a place where I escape my problems. Talking to someone about my problems on the internet kind of defeats the purpose of that (since I'm constantly reminded about such things).
To be honest, I find internet friends quite hard to make.
Since most of the fandoms I'm in are from the other side of the world, it would be really hard to talk to them (in real-time especially) due to timezones and stuff.
In addition, I don't like sharing personal stuff with internet friends. The internet is a place where you aren't judged, which I'm grateful for but I am still very self-aware and scared with what I post. If sharing my problems with internet people is difficult, imagine how many people in real life I share my problems with.
Once we get to know each other, I'll probably not talk to them for a very, very long time unless completely necessary.
My friends come and go as I move fandoms. Some quit the game/social media they're in and I can never talk to them again.
They say that the internet makes you have more friends. To me, standing amongst so many people with so many internet friends, I actually feel lonelier.
This whole "loneliness" thing is my fault anyway, since I don't like and don't put in the effort to have a long conversation with someone. The internet is a place where I escape my problems. Talking to someone about my problems on the internet kind of defeats the purpose of that (since I'm constantly reminded about such things).
no problem with it!! ive had them since a very young age, plus they made me realize my gender identity (i didnt know what transgender meant and i used to pretend to be a cis guy online thinking it was some weird thing only i did!!) as well as positively influencing my life in other ways!
plus its better than irl for me since irl gets me anxious haha;;;
no problem with it!! ive had them since a very young age, plus they made me realize my gender identity (i didnt know what transgender meant and i used to pretend to be a cis guy online thinking it was some weird thing only i did!!) as well as positively influencing my life in other ways!
plus its better than irl for me since irl gets me anxious haha;;;
I'm engaged to someone I met through the internet. <3
But there is a danger with anonymity - I've been heavily abused by online "friends" before, especially when they weren't who they said they were or catfished their way into earning my trust. Or just age gaps in general - as an adult talking to younger people on a site for 13+ players, it's very very very important to remember your legal standing around minors.
That being said though, I can't talk as openly about my mental health with people offline so having a kind of... getaway, I guess? Well, it's a breath of fresh air. Like I can pick and choose a second family of people on Discord and if someone doesn't sit right with me, I can easily just block and delete them - something that's nowhere near as easy when it comes to face-to-face interactions.
I'm engaged to someone I met through the internet. <3
But there is a danger with anonymity - I've been heavily abused by online "friends" before, especially when they weren't who they said they were or catfished their way into earning my trust. Or just age gaps in general - as an adult talking to younger people on a site for 13+ players, it's very very very important to remember your legal standing around minors.
That being said though, I can't talk as openly about my mental health with people offline so having a kind of... getaway, I guess? Well, it's a breath of fresh air. Like I can pick and choose a second family of people on Discord and if someone doesn't sit right with me, I can easily just block and delete them - something that's nowhere near as easy when it comes to face-to-face interactions.
I've made some of my best friendships online. :3 My ex of a year was met on a forum for writers, though it wasn't long-distance. We found out we lived only a couple of hours apart from each other so we got together a couple times a month. The reason for our breakup had nothing to do with the fact that we met online at all.
Aside from that, I do have a good number of friends online, some of whom I've met irl and some of whom I haven't yet. Over years, I've learned how to tell with some accuracy whether or not someone is lying to me, and I have had a couple of bad experiences with that. I think as long as you're judicious and don't share very personal information until you're confident the other person is completely honest, it's generally a very positive experience. ^_^
I've made some of my best friendships online. :3 My ex of a year was met on a forum for writers, though it wasn't long-distance. We found out we lived only a couple of hours apart from each other so we got together a couple times a month. The reason for our breakup had nothing to do with the fact that we met online at all.
Aside from that, I do have a good number of friends online, some of whom I've met irl and some of whom I haven't yet. Over years, I've learned how to tell with some accuracy whether or not someone is lying to me, and I have had a couple of bad experiences with that. I think as long as you're judicious and don't share very personal information until you're confident the other person is completely honest, it's generally a very positive experience. ^_^
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I think i trust some of my internet friends more than the people next door. (hint: i live in a very small neighborhood where nothing happens. i trust these people a lot.)
Anyways, I have no problem with internet friends. I think that most people on the internet tend to be... "Smarter" with word choice than let's say, the people at your school. Plus you can find people you really relate to, with similar interests, which I find really cool! :D
I think i trust some of my internet friends more than the people next door. (hint: i live in a very small neighborhood where nothing happens. i trust these people a lot.)
Anyways, I have no problem with internet friends. I think that most people on the internet tend to be... "Smarter" with word choice than let's say, the people at your school. Plus you can find people you really relate to, with similar interests, which I find really cool! :D
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I think they're wonderful! I've met up with several internet friends, either through plane or just driving, haha. I've met 4 of my partners online, though I'm only dating 2 of them now. (I have a girlfriend who lives about an hour away that I can visit, and a datemate that lives about 10 hours away that I can easily take a plane to for pretty cheap.)
I'm pretty open and friendly, both irl and online, so I kind of just make friends wherever I go. Usually, if I'm very close with someone online, we'll make plans to meet sooner or later, after many many months Facetiming or Skyping and talking on the phone. Luckily, my job provides enough money for me to take trips quite often.
I think they're wonderful! I've met up with several internet friends, either through plane or just driving, haha. I've met 4 of my partners online, though I'm only dating 2 of them now. (I have a girlfriend who lives about an hour away that I can visit, and a datemate that lives about 10 hours away that I can easily take a plane to for pretty cheap.)
I'm pretty open and friendly, both irl and online, so I kind of just make friends wherever I go. Usually, if I'm very close with someone online, we'll make plans to meet sooner or later, after many many months Facetiming or Skyping and talking on the phone. Luckily, my job provides enough money for me to take trips quite often.
having internet friends is super important to me! though, i've learned that people definitely aren't their "true selves" just because they're on the internet. there is a lot of lying and deception a person can get away with on the internet, just petty thing like knowledge on something you may like or how they treat people in real life (which is important no matter what, even if you'll never meet them in real life).
but, i think the risks are worth it. i've met some of my favorite people (including my boyfriend of 4 years now, who i live with!) online. it's definitely a place to find people you get along with freakishly well, who you actually have common interests with which, for some people, can be sooo hard irl. but! i have a really hard time meeting people in real life, and it's kind of wearing on me, especially since i moved far away from my hometown. i wish i wasn't so damn shy offline hahaaa
having internet friends is super important to me! though, i've learned that people definitely aren't their "true selves" just because they're on the internet. there is a lot of lying and deception a person can get away with on the internet, just petty thing like knowledge on something you may like or how they treat people in real life (which is important no matter what, even if you'll never meet them in real life).
but, i think the risks are worth it. i've met some of my favorite people (including my boyfriend of 4 years now, who i live with!) online. it's definitely a place to find people you get along with freakishly well, who you actually have common interests with which, for some people, can be sooo hard irl. but! i have a really hard time meeting people in real life, and it's kind of wearing on me, especially since i moved far away from my hometown. i wish i wasn't so damn shy offline hahaaa
One of my old best friends I met on the Internet. Until she changed completely.
I love internet friends none the less, though. I can't be judged for anything. I've made friend with people my younger brother's age, which never would have happened in real life. No one here even knows my gender. I'm free to talk about whatever fandoms I want, say silly things without being judged, and just be nice to everyone. I'll never know what they look like or who they really are. They're never getting any of my personal info except that I'm not a minor, so no harm can come of it and I've made some lasting friends, :)
If only my parents saw it thay way...
One of my old best friends I met on the Internet. Until she changed completely.
I love internet friends none the less, though. I can't be judged for anything. I've made friend with people my younger brother's age, which never would have happened in real life. No one here even knows my gender. I'm free to talk about whatever fandoms I want, say silly things without being judged, and just be nice to everyone. I'll never know what they look like or who they really are. They're never getting any of my personal info except that I'm not a minor, so no harm can come of it and I've made some lasting friends, :)
If only my parents saw it thay way...
Once I got out of high school I realized that 98% of the people I was friends with I was only friends with because we saw one another 5 days a week. We all drifted apart, and I actually am no longer in communication with any 'irl friends' with the exception being during November when I see the same people during NaNoWriMo at write-ins and such but the other 11 months of the year we really don't talk.
My internet friends? I've known my friend beanie for ~8 years now, and known many more for 5+ years. We talk often, and like the OP said it's not based on appearances at all but more on personality. Finding people I'm compatible with and having long chats with them, regardless of their age in most cases. Being able to pick up after months of not talking like nothing happened and we didn't spend that much time apart. It's fantastic, and I love it. I'd probably never make human contact outside of going to the store a few times a month if it wasn't for the internet because I'm such a hermit.
Once I got out of high school I realized that 98% of the people I was friends with I was only friends with because we saw one another 5 days a week. We all drifted apart, and I actually am no longer in communication with any 'irl friends' with the exception being during November when I see the same people during NaNoWriMo at write-ins and such but the other 11 months of the year we really don't talk.
My internet friends? I've known my friend beanie for ~8 years now, and known many more for 5+ years. We talk often, and like the OP said it's not based on appearances at all but more on personality. Finding people I'm compatible with and having long chats with them, regardless of their age in most cases. Being able to pick up after months of not talking like nothing happened and we didn't spend that much time apart. It's fantastic, and I love it. I'd probably never make human contact outside of going to the store a few times a month if it wasn't for the internet because I'm such a hermit.