misgendering people is always bad.
if someone says they're a woman, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
if someone says they're a man, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
if someone says they're nonbinary, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
it's actually quite easy to respect people's identities. and that's all i'll say on the matter because it makes me sad when this thread that is supposed to be about supporting each other devolves into discourse. just respect other people's identities, please.
misgendering people is always bad.
if someone says they're a woman, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
if someone says they're a man, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
if someone says they're nonbinary, believe them and don't try to push them otherwise.
it's actually quite easy to respect people's identities. and that's all i'll say on the matter because it makes me sad when this thread that is supposed to be about supporting each other devolves into discourse. just respect other people's identities, please.
Hey folks. I really don't want to have to put this thread in a time-out state, but debate over whether or not it's okay to speculate about a real person's identity after they've told you who they are isn't appropriate. Let's put this particular topic down now, please. Thank you.
Hey folks. I really don't want to have to put this thread in a time-out state, but debate over whether or not it's okay to speculate about a real person's identity after they've told you who they are isn't appropriate. Let's put this particular topic down now, please. Thank you.
Understood. I think I've learned my lesson about trans men not being allowed to talk about their personal experiences without complete strangers on the internet getting weird about it.
Sorry, I'll leave it alone now
Understood. I think I've learned my lesson about trans men not being allowed to talk about their personal experiences without complete strangers on the internet getting weird about it.
Sorry, I'll leave it alone now
gender affirming win: my doctor took me seriously when I said I have issues with my reproductive system and has referred me to a gynecologist. now here's hoping the gynecologist can help me figure out how to get my incubator to behave itself...
gender affirming win: my doctor took me seriously when I said I have issues with my reproductive system and has referred me to a gynecologist. now here's hoping the gynecologist can help me figure out how to get my incubator to behave itself...
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louckykoneko the phrasing of your message is absolutely diabolical. I will now use the phrase of "getting my incubator to behave itself."
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louckykoneko the phrasing of your message is absolutely diabolical. I will now use the phrase of "getting my incubator to behave itself."
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grozen
haha, thanks! I've been referring to it as 'the incubator' for a while, that's basically what it is anyway. glad my silly wording could give you a laugh ^^
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grozen
haha, thanks! I've been referring to it as 'the incubator' for a while, that's basically what it is anyway. glad my silly wording could give you a laugh ^^
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louckykoneko truly, the travesty that is the human afab reproductive system only leaves us to laugh about it cope with it LMAO
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louckykoneko truly, the travesty that is the human afab reproductive system only leaves us to laugh about it cope with it LMAO
first time binding with kt tape 24+ hours in and i am most definitely having skin reactions to the material but the itchiness is way worth it over the normal dysphoria .. [emoji=fae sleepy size=1] transgender hell-loop
first time binding with kt tape 24+ hours in and i am most definitely having skin reactions to the material but the itchiness is way worth it over the normal dysphoria ..
transgender hell-loop
20 :: him :: pings/messages = ok!
Hey all, I just want to step back real quick in to clarify some things, as my last post was definitely more forum moderation-minded.
Conversations about identity are personal and can often be very vulnerable. No one should be made to feel as though they shouldn't discuss their lived experiences with their identity — least of all here, in a post where that is some of the express purpose of the thread.
Everyone has their own different needs and challenges when it comes to exploring their identity, which is valid. Conversations with [i]others[/i] about [i]their[/i] identities can be nuanced and should be handled with care. And that nuance can be difficult to navigate in-person, let alone in a text-based online setting. Encouraging exploration and self-examination in someone who trusts you is great, and not an issue. What [i]isn't[/i] acceptable is asserting someone's identity [i]for[/i] them, or otherwise trying to push or force them in any one direction.
Bowing out now, thank you for your time! [emoji=familiar heart size=1]
Hey all, I just want to step back real quick in to clarify some things, as my last post was definitely more forum moderation-minded.
Conversations about identity are personal and can often be very vulnerable. No one should be made to feel as though they shouldn't discuss their lived experiences with their identity — least of all here, in a post where that is some of the express purpose of the thread.
Everyone has their own different needs and challenges when it comes to exploring their identity, which is valid. Conversations with
others about
their identities can be nuanced and should be handled with care. And that nuance can be difficult to navigate in-person, let alone in a text-based online setting. Encouraging exploration and self-examination in someone who trusts you is great, and not an issue. What
isn't acceptable is asserting someone's identity
for them, or otherwise trying to push or force them in any one direction.
Bowing out now, thank you for your time!
Going back to this thread after 4 years; I'm a non-binary woman (demigirl is also a right way to refer me), and use she/they pronouns. It's something I saw in myself (identity-wise) those years ago, but couldn't exactly name/comprehend. Now as I know, I am more glad and accepting.
Looking forward to changing my wardrobe a bit to include "masculine" clothing options
(in my opinion, clothes don't have assigned genders, nor we truly assign genders to them, it's just a society™ thing). I have three hurdles with this, though:
- Having to redo and plan my wardrobe. As someone who lives with the classic combo of t-shirt and pants, it's something.
- *Something about color selections here*.
- Most of the interesting clothing are outside my country, so shipping fees can be large. + I'm not generally sure where to find them. I've thought of Etsy, but that has AI-generated stuff mixed with legitimate stuff, so it's poop.
I've thought about getting ear piercings so that I could wear earrings, and generally use more jewelry. Maybe some accessories, like a bow tie? And also try to get into cosmetics!
Going back to this thread after 4 years; I'm a non-binary woman (demigirl is also a right way to refer me), and use she/they pronouns. It's something I saw in myself (identity-wise) those years ago, but couldn't exactly name/comprehend. Now as I know, I am more glad and accepting.
Looking forward to changing my wardrobe a bit to include "masculine" clothing options
(in my opinion, clothes don't have assigned genders, nor we truly assign genders to them, it's just a society™ thing). I have three hurdles with this, though:
- Having to redo and plan my wardrobe. As someone who lives with the classic combo of t-shirt and pants, it's something.
- *Something about color selections here*.
- Most of the interesting clothing are outside my country, so shipping fees can be large. + I'm not generally sure where to find them. I've thought of Etsy, but that has AI-generated stuff mixed with legitimate stuff, so it's poop.
I've thought about getting ear piercings so that I could wear earrings, and generally use more jewelry. Maybe some accessories, like a bow tie? And also try to get into cosmetics!
