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Leijona
8 years after your comment, here I am to tell you my coming out cake story, also from 8 years ago! ^-^ I'll shorten it because I tend to be long-winded, haha.
My parents are Mormon, and had a "traditional" punishement style if you catch my drift, so coming out to them was super scary. After I moved out with my sister, we went to the store, and the only option for a small round cake had this horrendous pink and green icing. So I brought it to the guy running the bakery, and this was the conversation:
Me: "Hey, can you pipe something on this for me?"
Him: "Sure, who do you want to wish happy birthday to?"
Me: "Oh, no, just write 'I am a Lesbian' Please!"
Him: "Huh?"
Me: "My dad is kinda scary so I'm going to put it on his doorstep with a letter and dingdong ditch the house."
Him: "Oh awesome! What color do you want the icing?"
And then I put it on their doorstep and dingdong ditched their house.
And, to my father's credit, he texted me later with "I'm only upset about the pink and green icing." And now he and my mom both love my girlfriend, so for all their faults, I consider myself pretty lucky compared to some!
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Leijona
8 years after your comment, here I am to tell you my coming out cake story, also from 8 years ago! ^-^ I'll shorten it because I tend to be long-winded, haha.
My parents are Mormon, and had a "traditional" punishement style if you catch my drift, so coming out to them was super scary. After I moved out with my sister, we went to the store, and the only option for a small round cake had this horrendous pink and green icing. So I brought it to the guy running the bakery, and this was the conversation:
Me: "Hey, can you pipe something on this for me?"
Him: "Sure, who do you want to wish happy birthday to?"
Me: "Oh, no, just write 'I am a Lesbian' Please!"
Him: "Huh?"
Me: "My dad is kinda scary so I'm going to put it on his doorstep with a letter and dingdong ditch the house."
Him: "Oh awesome! What color do you want the icing?"
And then I put it on their doorstep and dingdong ditched their house.
And, to my father's credit, he texted me later with "I'm only upset about the pink and green icing." And now he and my mom both love my girlfriend, so for all their faults, I consider myself pretty lucky compared to some!
Everyone. Keep being queer in spite of everything. This isn't the first time this has happened, and you know what? We're still here, we've always been here, and we're not going anywhere. Nobody can stop you from being queer. I am going to keep loving my trans boyfriend and wear my pronoun pins and live my life as myself. So much of being queer is the rebellion and not conforming to society. They can't knock us down.
Everyone. Keep being queer in spite of everything. This isn't the first time this has happened, and you know what? We're still here, we've always been here, and we're not going anywhere. Nobody can stop you from being queer. I am going to keep loving my trans boyfriend and wear my pronoun pins and live my life as myself. So much of being queer is the rebellion and not conforming to society. They can't knock us down.
Something just doesn’t feel right about me (my identity) and I’m not entirely sure why or what [emoji=tundra sad size=1]
Something just doesn’t feel right about me (my identity) and I’m not entirely sure why or what
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Consider dropping this boy a like!
(I suck at coding so this is a major wip lol)
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Something just doesn’t feel right about me (my identity) and I’m not entirely sure why or what [emoji=tundra sad size=1]
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Twin (I opened this bag of cats a little bit back, and I think it was actually good for me. Coming to terms with the fact that I am in fact a polygender trans agender man was not an easy thing, but coming to term with who I truly am rather than trying to force myself into a box that I had previously though I fit in was not healthy. People are susceptible to change, and that's okay! Change can open you up to so much more than staying the same ever will.
Gender (especially for trans people) is almost never truly binary, and it's both completely natural and beautiful to challenge society's idea of what a "man" or "woman" should truly be. Gender is such a unique diverse thing that is truly unable to be fully understood, even by yourself. I don't fully know my gender, and I've come to realise that I'm okay with that! As long as I'm happy, it shouldn't truly matter whether or not I have every little thing figured out.
Life as a queer person will never be set out in front of you, showing you exactly what to do and how to manage it, but that's the glory of being your own person: Building your own life. There's zero shame in experimenting and trying new things (such as pronouns, labels, names, etc.) and it's all part of self–discovery, which will help pave a path for self–love. It's okay to be confused and not know everything, it's all part of the experience. I hope this helped!! ^_^)
Something just doesn’t feel right about me (my identity) and I’m not entirely sure why or what
Twin (I opened this bag of cats a little bit back, and I think it was actually good for me. Coming to terms with the fact that I am in fact a polygender trans agender man was not an easy thing, but coming to term with who I truly am rather than trying to force myself into a box that I had previously though I fit in was not healthy. People are susceptible to change, and that's okay! Change can open you up to so much more than staying the same ever will.
Gender (especially for trans people) is almost never truly binary, and it's both completely natural and beautiful to challenge society's idea of what a "man" or "woman" should truly be. Gender is such a unique diverse thing that is truly unable to be fully understood, even by yourself. I don't fully know my gender, and I've come to realise that I'm okay with that! As long as I'm happy, it shouldn't truly matter whether or not I have every little thing figured out.
Life as a queer person will never be set out in front of you, showing you exactly what to do and how to manage it, but that's the glory of being your own person: Building your own life. There's zero shame in experimenting and trying new things (such as pronouns, labels, names, etc.) and it's all part of self–discovery, which will help pave a path for self–love. It's okay to be confused and not know everything, it's all part of the experience. I hope this helped!! ^_^)
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TransDisaster This did help, thank you so much for your kindness it really, truly means a lot! Very well said too, I honestly constantly forget that my own happiness should come first y’know?
I’ve identified as a trans man for so long, and it feels wrong for me to feel disconnected to it (even if I am). I have been thinking about trying out nonbinary for a bit but even then, I’m so self-conscious about how I’m perceived and how I perceive myself… It’s a hard thing to get right I suppose!
I really needed to hear this right now, though, so thank you.
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TransDisaster This did help, thank you so much for your kindness it really, truly means a lot! Very well said too, I honestly constantly forget that my own happiness should come first y’know?
I’ve identified as a trans man for so long, and it feels wrong for me to feel disconnected to it (even if I am). I have been thinking about trying out nonbinary for a bit but even then, I’m so self-conscious about how I’m perceived and how I perceive myself… It’s a hard thing to get right I suppose!
I really needed to hear this right now, though, so thank you.
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Consider dropping this boy a like!
(I suck at coding so this is a major wip lol)
Ace ace, baby! And panromantic. Which makes relationships extra hard in my humble opinion. :')
I'm very open about my orientations so everyone who cares to know, knows. Still get asked a lot of silly questions about being ace. That never seems to go away.
I hope you're all doing well!
Ace ace, baby! And panromantic. Which makes relationships extra hard in my humble opinion. :')
I'm very open about my orientations so everyone who cares to know, knows. Still get asked a lot of silly questions about being ace. That never seems to go away.
I hope you're all doing well!
fellow ace panromantic! :D i don't even know how to begin to relationship lmao
fellow ace panromantic! :D i don't even know how to begin to relationship lmao
hi everyone—straight transdude here, just wanted to remind you all you’re doing amazing and are so so loved :) I know things can be difficult but it will get better, and I’m so proud of all of you!!
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hi everyone—straight transdude here, just wanted to remind you all you’re doing amazing and are so so loved :) I know things can be difficult but it will get better, and I’m so proud of all of you!!
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HI fellow straight trans men!!! i love u too and youre also doing so amazing and so is everybody
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calore wrote on 2025-02-12 15:37:54:
hi everyone—straight transdude here, just wanted to remind you all you’re doing amazing and are so so loved :) I know things can be difficult but it will get better, and I’m so proud of all of you!!
HI fellow straight trans men!!! i love u too and youre also doing so amazing and so is everybody
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i love trans people forever
ping me
bisexual trans man here ! i have an appointment to do with hormones on valentine's day , how romantic :3
bisexual trans man here ! i have an appointment to do with hormones on valentine's day , how romantic :3
