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[quote name="Chromathicc" date="2025-01-30 13:21:26" ] [quote name="Martinaise" date="2025-01-21 18:56:41" ] trans people: did your sexuality fall apart completely after coming to terms with the fact you are trans? its like. anything gendered ceased to exist and the only thing that i ever think about is whether the person in question is cis or not. literally cant pay attention or care about anything else. i would probably fall under bisexual but i dont even think i can cross all the dots for that. like my sexuality kind of doesnt exist anymore and just *is*, like being transsexual unscrewed all learnt stringing of gender. [/quote] Not quite made gender cease to exist, but expanded sexuality boundaries a lot. Like, when you think about it, kissing any gender would feel quite the same, why would this decide about your sexuality? And so on. As baby trans I used to have crises every day, trapped in a loop of: [LIST=1] [*]"I want to kiss my best friend", [*]"My best friend is a girl, does this mean I'm not gay anymore?", [*]*gets reminded guys exist* "nevermind" [/LIST] Realizing this made me even more keen to stop trying to label myself. So one would say, my sexuality fell apart Also I can't help but to feel bad when someone I'm not attracted to gender-wise, has feelings for me. Because I'm judging them on premise of how they were born, even though the very thing had caused me so much pain. I'm still working that one out. [/quote] Almost,,,, it was my gender that fell apart lol. Realising I'm polygender (and actually [i]coming to terms[/i] with it) was not easy. But I did have a bit of a sexuality crisis after coming out as trans. For a while, I resonated with pansexuality, but at this point, I'm just gay (and likely T4T, probably exclusively). The same thing with polygender happened: I didn't want to have to come out again. And also, don't ever feel bad for not liking someone because they're literally not your orientation. The same way no one can help their gender, no one can help their sexuality. Please, don't feel bad for something you can't help.

[quote name="glarthir" date="2025-02-02 18:30:55" ] Let's all stay strong. Let's all outlive him. [/quote] no cap

[quote name="RunRiverRed" date="2025-01-27 20:54:18" ] I love being a lesbian Thats it, thats the post [emoji=familiar heart size=1] [/quote] [emoji=familiar heart size=1]

random question: have any other trans people here realized that they've started making older trans OCs as they get older?? my first were in their teens and now that i am a teen i have like 3 middle-aged trans men in my OC vaults

@butterlad

yes! it's a natural progression; we make characters based on our current self and what we admire or want to become. I started out with tomboy teens when I was like 9 and now that I'm in my 20s I'm making nonbinary tweens and 30+ characters.

@Pann I am in the same boat, I'm trans, my sibling is trans NB, my partner is trans agender. I know so many trans folks and everyone is having a hard time with what is going on. I want to remind everyone though that we have each other and we will get through this together. It is an act of rebellion and shows our strength to just keep existing right now in the face of all that is against us. They want us to be scared. They want us to suffer. It is absolutely valid and okay to be feeling terrible right now, but remember that queer joy and community is those in power's kryptonite. We are far more powerful than those in power when the people come together.

Well, being a trans, gay, autistic man. I do have some relief knowing that if it truly gets bad that canada (at least so far) is accepting lgbtq+ who are seeking asylum.

I'm....not gonna comment on things happening in the US (especially since I live in the south with no way to leave and this is my home and where i grew up in, i shouldn't have to feel fear in my home)

I just wanted to drop by here and say that I'm getting my next (and final!) gender affirming surgery in May <3 I found a wonderful team who respects me and takes me seriously and actually, y'know, treats me like a human being. A rarity.