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Martinaise
before I figured out I was a transman, I did think I was a lesbian for the longest time ever, so yes, there was at least a month long saga of me freaking out about this sudden revelation, but eventually, you figure it out, or at least I did! and the idea of just *being* is totally understandable too, after weeks of trying to label myself I eventually settled with just queer/unlabeled, since labels about my sexuality just didn't fit me, I liked just "being" lol!
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Martinaise
before I figured out I was a transman, I did think I was a lesbian for the longest time ever, so yes, there was at least a month long saga of me freaking out about this sudden revelation, but eventually, you figure it out, or at least I did! and the idea of just *being* is totally understandable too, after weeks of trying to label myself I eventually settled with just queer/unlabeled, since labels about my sexuality just didn't fit me, I liked just "being" lol!
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zombozou oh same here as well(and same thing haha), i mean more so afterwards though. i feel like the easiest way to describe it (if im able) is that the concept of gender deconstructed in my head almost entirely. especially in terms of relationship/attraction? now myself and others are "just existing" to me .. i say im unlabeled but whew when it comes down to it all, it feels pretty messily jumbled together. ^_^
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zombozou oh same here as well(and same thing haha), i mean more so afterwards though. i feel like the easiest way to describe it (if im able) is that the concept of gender deconstructed in my head almost entirely. especially in terms of relationship/attraction? now myself and others are "just existing" to me .. i say im unlabeled but whew when it comes down to it all, it feels pretty messily jumbled together. ^_^
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@Neflo
I think I'm kind of in the middle of that too actually. I've also been discovering, understanding and finding out more things about my queer identity, and it's also a bit scary for me. Sometimes I completely embrace it and love who I found out myself to be, and then I start feeling sad and worried, a bit out of nowhere.
But even though it's difficult right now, I can picture a future where I am open and happy with who I am. And I've been feeling more confident about it.
I don't know if this is what happens to you, but I understand being scared. If you want to talk you can PM me whenever you want, I have no problem with it. Take care [emoji=familiar heart size=1]
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[quote name="Martinaise" date="2025-01-21 18:56:41" ]
trans people: did your sexuality fall apart completely after coming to terms with the fact you are trans? its like. anything gendered ceased to exist and the only thing that i ever think about is whether the person in question is cis or not. literally cant pay attention or care about anything else. i would probably fall under bisexual but i dont even think i can cross all the dots for that. like my sexuality kind of doesnt exist anymore and just *is*, like being transsexual unscrewed all learnt stringing of gender.
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Not quite made gender cease to exist, but expanded sexuality boundaries a lot. Like, when you think about it, kissing any gender would feel quite the same, why would this decide about your sexuality? And so on.
As baby trans I used to have crises every day, trapped in a loop of:
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[*]"I want to kiss my best friend",
[*]"My best friend is a girl, does this mean I'm not gay anymore?",
[*]*gets reminded guys exist* "nevermind"
[/LIST]
Realizing this made me even more keen to stop trying to label myself. So one would say, my sexuality fell apart
Also I can't help but to feel bad when someone I'm not attracted to gender-wise, has feelings for me. Because I'm judging them on premise of how they were born, even though the very thing had caused me so much pain. I'm still working that one out.
Martinaise wrote on 2025-01-21 18:56:41:
trans people: did your sexuality fall apart completely after coming to terms with the fact you are trans? its like. anything gendered ceased to exist and the only thing that i ever think about is whether the person in question is cis or not. literally cant pay attention or care about anything else. i would probably fall under bisexual but i dont even think i can cross all the dots for that. like my sexuality kind of doesnt exist anymore and just *is*, like being transsexual unscrewed all learnt stringing of gender.
Not quite made gender cease to exist, but expanded sexuality boundaries a lot. Like, when you think about it, kissing any gender would feel quite the same, why would this decide about your sexuality? And so on.
As baby trans I used to have crises every day, trapped in a loop of:
- "I want to kiss my best friend",
- "My best friend is a girl, does this mean I'm not gay anymore?",
- *gets reminded guys exist* "nevermind"
Realizing this made me even more keen to stop trying to label myself. So one would say, my sexuality fell apart
Also I can't help but to feel bad when someone I'm not attracted to gender-wise, has feelings for me. Because I'm judging them on premise of how they were born, even though the very thing had caused me so much pain. I'm still working that one out.
Transmasc nonbinary dude here! Are any other USAnians migrating to Sweden as soon as possible?
Transmasc nonbinary dude here! Are any other USAnians migrating to Sweden as soon as possible?
While we'd prefer to keep exact details private, a friend once referred to us collectively as 'queer soup' and that has never left our mind since.
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- Alex [emoji=cat 1 size=1]
While we'd prefer to keep exact details private, a friend once referred to us collectively as 'queer soup' and that has never left our mind since.
- Alex
[quote name="@glarthir" date="2025-01-30 14:02:45" ]
Transmasc nonbinary dude here! Are any other USAnians migrating to Sweden as soon as possible?
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maybe!!! :p i thought about spain too since I'm enrolled in some spanish courses currently!
to trans people: stay strong! be loud and proud (if it's safe), stick together, i love yall my trans brothers, sisters, siblings and ones that are not related!!
Transmasc nonbinary dude here! Are any other USAnians migrating to Sweden as soon as possible?
maybe!!! :p i thought about spain too since I'm enrolled in some spanish courses currently!
to trans people: stay strong! be loud and proud (if it's safe), stick together, i love yall my trans brothers, sisters, siblings and ones that are not related!!
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i love trans people forever
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Let's all stay strong. Let's all outlive him.
Let's all stay strong. Let's all outlive him.
