Hi there, Flight Rising.
I'm not actually sure why I'm making this forum post or what kind of response I expect, but I guess I need to... vent? Or maybe apologise before becoming forum active again. I don't know.
Anyway. Here's the thing.
I love FR. Been here for, what, soon 6 years now?(Yikes, time flies...) And I've never gotten bored. Sometimes life has been a bit too busy and I've scaled back on how active I am, but I've never just... left. There's always something to do, and FR is a nice place to relax and unwind from the stressors out in the wide world.
I have, on the other hand, fled.
Because I am a somewhat anxious introvert. And I love people. And FR's community is so warm and lovely that I just get to talking with a random stranger about pixel dragons or nothing in particular at all, and it makes me happy.
So I've been through several cycles of:
It's... not the best habit to have. I have on several occasions thought about not ever starting PM conversations again and maybe staying away from the forums for forever, too, but... again, I love FR. I love this community. I don't actually want to shut myself off from it. From you.
So here I am again, cautiously starting the cycle over again and hoping I can manage it better this time around.
Hi, all new people.
Hi again, everyone who has seen me around before.
I apologise sincerely for my past behaviour. If I have ever hurt you, know that I didn't mean to, and that I am deeply sorry. If I ever suddenly shut down in the future and abandon you, know that it is not your fault.
I sadly cannot promise it won't happen, but I promise to try.
It'll be nice talking to you all again. I've missed you. Do any of you have similar issues? Something else you feel like you need to vent about? Or maybe a project or two that you're working on right now that you'd like to talk about? A particular dragon, piece of lore or stroke of good luck that you'd like to gush or brag about?
I'll probably head off to bed soon, but I'd love to chat for a bit and can always answer tomorrow, if nothing else. I'll have the thread followed :)
I hope you're all safe and happy and are taking care of yourselves and your loved ones in these trying times.
Love,
Outpost
P.S. Sorry for the long and rambling post. TL;DR is that I'm an Unreliable Cryptid sometimes, I'm sorry for it and I would like to chat about whatever catches your fancy :)
I'm not actually sure why I'm making this forum post or what kind of response I expect, but I guess I need to... vent? Or maybe apologise before becoming forum active again. I don't know.
Anyway. Here's the thing.
I love FR. Been here for, what, soon 6 years now?
I have, on the other hand, fled.
Because I am a somewhat anxious introvert. And I love people. And FR's community is so warm and lovely that I just get to talking with a random stranger about pixel dragons or nothing in particular at all, and it makes me happy.
So I've been through several cycles of:
- Meet someone new due to random reason
- Start talking about that thing
- Receive/send + accept friend request
- Start talking about other things
- Write smaller essays back and forth about all kinds of things, maybe share a couple of fairly anonymous IRL details, because it feels like we're really getting close and can trust each other
- Start to reply slower and slower, because those PMs are pretty long by now and I need to actively put aside time to write back
- Encounter something IRL that stresses me out/makes me anxious/needs my attention
- Not reply for ages
- Get anxiety about not having replied (and perhaps send a short apology message)
- Not feed my dragons to look like I'm not active
- Stop visiting FR for a while so that I don't have to think about the abandoned message(s)
- Give up on ever replying and accepting my guilty conscience as something I'll have to live with
- Start being active on FR again
- Forget the message and what we even talked about, just having guilty pangs of anxiety every time I notice my friend list (which is full of people I've abandoned, oh Lightweaver)
- Start to feel restless and like I want to be more involved in the site
- Restart the whole miserable cycle from step 1.
It's... not the best habit to have. I have on several occasions thought about not ever starting PM conversations again and maybe staying away from the forums for forever, too, but... again, I love FR. I love this community. I don't actually want to shut myself off from it. From you.
So here I am again, cautiously starting the cycle over again and hoping I can manage it better this time around.
Hi, all new people.
Hi again, everyone who has seen me around before.
I apologise sincerely for my past behaviour. If I have ever hurt you, know that I didn't mean to, and that I am deeply sorry. If I ever suddenly shut down in the future and abandon you, know that it is not your fault.
I sadly cannot promise it won't happen, but I promise to try.
It'll be nice talking to you all again. I've missed you. Do any of you have similar issues? Something else you feel like you need to vent about? Or maybe a project or two that you're working on right now that you'd like to talk about? A particular dragon, piece of lore or stroke of good luck that you'd like to gush or brag about?
I'll probably head off to bed soon, but I'd love to chat for a bit and can always answer tomorrow, if nothing else. I'll have the thread followed :)
I hope you're all safe and happy and are taking care of yourselves and your loved ones in these trying times.
Love,
Outpost
P.S. Sorry for the long and rambling post. TL;DR is that I'm an Unreliable Cryptid sometimes, I'm sorry for it and I would like to chat about whatever catches your fancy :)