Just came out. Update tomorrow.
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Uhmm, Hello there! To who ever may be reading this~
After about an hour of trying to deiced if I was going to post here, I am! So here it goes! *This is pretty much just a story of me coming to terms with who I am an accepting it*
I'm a bisexual male an it took far to long to come to terms with that 3: I first started finding an attraction to other men when I was in my early teen years (12-14) I wouldn't say I was confused, but definitely in denial. I would always tell myself *it's not right, your supposed to only feel like this about women* So I continued with this thought process for few years, a friend of mine came out in high school that she was lesbian so, I talked to her about it, asking questions like how did she know? an such. She would always tell me *in private in a joking manner but serious at the same time* "Your gay" in the sense referring that I liked men, I was kinda speechless in my responses to her when ever she said that, I always denied it an said no.
It was like, how did she know? but at the same time I'm denying it to myself as well. Needless to say, I got very confused at this point an that's when I literally sat down and thought about it for a long time... I came to terms around this point that it's a fact that I find men attractive and there's nothing I can do about it, it's just how it is. I was 16-17 around this time, I eventually told her she was right, which resulted in a "I told you so!" response xD She of course didn't say anything to anyone about it an it was just between the two of us.
Through out the years later even though I knew this was something I couldn't change, it still bugged me for a long time since there was a lot of nonacceptance for these feelings. I acted straight, tried to force myself to be straight. It didn't work out. Guy's kept coming back into my mind, but I did find an attraction to women as well which just made things confusing. It was at a point where the group of friends I had were accepting of gay's an such but they were always like "You can't like both, it's one or the other" *None of them knew that I liked guy's aside from the 1 girl* So I fought it, an tried to figure out what I was. Was I gay or straight or something else? In the end I was attracted to both men an women equally. :3
Looking back on things now, even from a younger age I can see that I was always interested in both men an women. -I'm 26 now *.*-
As for coming out, I'm still "in the closet" to say the least. I've came out to a few people over the years and they've been cool about it, aside from one person... Who I believed to be my "best friend" at the time, after I told her, things... started to change between us a little each day an well we don't talk anymore... I can't say that's the reason 100% because she never really told me why, just shortly after things did start to change. Still hurts to think about that, but what's done is done right? :3 Gotta try an stay positive! All my other friends accept me for who I am ^_^ As to coming out to family, well I'm just not there yet. To be honest I don't know if I will be any time soon, perhaps one day, who knows!
Anyways! Uhm I hope you enjoyed reading my big wall of text! If you did read all of it haha! Take care everyone! I'm going to run an hide off FR for a while now~~ :3
After about an hour of trying to deiced if I was going to post here, I am! So here it goes! *This is pretty much just a story of me coming to terms with who I am an accepting it*
I'm a bisexual male an it took far to long to come to terms with that 3: I first started finding an attraction to other men when I was in my early teen years (12-14) I wouldn't say I was confused, but definitely in denial. I would always tell myself *it's not right, your supposed to only feel like this about women* So I continued with this thought process for few years, a friend of mine came out in high school that she was lesbian so, I talked to her about it, asking questions like how did she know? an such. She would always tell me *in private in a joking manner but serious at the same time* "Your gay" in the sense referring that I liked men, I was kinda speechless in my responses to her when ever she said that, I always denied it an said no.
It was like, how did she know? but at the same time I'm denying it to myself as well. Needless to say, I got very confused at this point an that's when I literally sat down and thought about it for a long time... I came to terms around this point that it's a fact that I find men attractive and there's nothing I can do about it, it's just how it is. I was 16-17 around this time, I eventually told her she was right, which resulted in a "I told you so!" response xD She of course didn't say anything to anyone about it an it was just between the two of us.
Through out the years later even though I knew this was something I couldn't change, it still bugged me for a long time since there was a lot of nonacceptance for these feelings. I acted straight, tried to force myself to be straight. It didn't work out. Guy's kept coming back into my mind, but I did find an attraction to women as well which just made things confusing. It was at a point where the group of friends I had were accepting of gay's an such but they were always like "You can't like both, it's one or the other" *None of them knew that I liked guy's aside from the 1 girl* So I fought it, an tried to figure out what I was. Was I gay or straight or something else? In the end I was attracted to both men an women equally. :3
Looking back on things now, even from a younger age I can see that I was always interested in both men an women. -I'm 26 now *.*-
As for coming out, I'm still "in the closet" to say the least. I've came out to a few people over the years and they've been cool about it, aside from one person... Who I believed to be my "best friend" at the time, after I told her, things... started to change between us a little each day an well we don't talk anymore... I can't say that's the reason 100% because she never really told me why, just shortly after things did start to change. Still hurts to think about that, but what's done is done right? :3 Gotta try an stay positive! All my other friends accept me for who I am ^_^ As to coming out to family, well I'm just not there yet. To be honest I don't know if I will be any time soon, perhaps one day, who knows!
Anyways! Uhm I hope you enjoyed reading my big wall of text! If you did read all of it haha! Take care everyone! I'm going to run an hide off FR for a while now~~ :3
Uhmm, Hello there! To who ever may be reading this~
After about an hour of trying to deiced if I was going to post here, I am! So here it goes! *This is pretty much just a story of me coming to terms with who I am an accepting it*
I'm a bisexual male an it took far to long to come to terms with that 3: I first started finding an attraction to other men when I was in my early teen years (12-14) I wouldn't say I was confused, but definitely in denial. I would always tell myself *it's not right, your supposed to only feel like this about women* So I continued with this thought process for few years, a friend of mine came out in high school that she was lesbian so, I talked to her about it, asking questions like how did she know? an such. She would always tell me *in private in a joking manner but serious at the same time* "Your gay" in the sense referring that I liked men, I was kinda speechless in my responses to her when ever she said that, I always denied it an said no.
It was like, how did she know? but at the same time I'm denying it to myself as well. Needless to say, I got very confused at this point an that's when I literally sat down and thought about it for a long time... I came to terms around this point that it's a fact that I find men attractive and there's nothing I can do about it, it's just how it is. I was 16-17 around this time, I eventually told her she was right, which resulted in a "I told you so!" response xD She of course didn't say anything to anyone about it an it was just between the two of us.
Through out the years later even though I knew this was something I couldn't change, it still bugged me for a long time since there was a lot of nonacceptance for these feelings. I acted straight, tried to force myself to be straight. It didn't work out. Guy's kept coming back into my mind, but I did find an attraction to women as well which just made things confusing. It was at a point where the group of friends I had were accepting of gay's an such but they were always like "You can't like both, it's one or the other" *None of them knew that I liked guy's aside from the 1 girl* So I fought it, an tried to figure out what I was. Was I gay or straight or something else? In the end I was attracted to both men an women equally. :3
Looking back on things now, even from a younger age I can see that I was always interested in both men an women. -I'm 26 now *.*-
As for coming out, I'm still "in the closet" to say the least. I've came out to a few people over the years and they've been cool about it, aside from one person... Who I believed to be my "best friend" at the time, after I told her, things... started to change between us a little each day an well we don't talk anymore... I can't say that's the reason 100% because she never really told me why, just shortly after things did start to change. Still hurts to think about that, but what's done is done right? :3 Gotta try an stay positive! All my other friends accept me for who I am ^_^ As to coming out to family, well I'm just not there yet. To be honest I don't know if I will be any time soon, perhaps one day, who knows!
Anyways! Uhm I hope you enjoyed reading my big wall of text! If you did read all of it haha! Take care everyone! I'm going to run an hide off FR for a while now~~ :3
After about an hour of trying to deiced if I was going to post here, I am! So here it goes! *This is pretty much just a story of me coming to terms with who I am an accepting it*
I'm a bisexual male an it took far to long to come to terms with that 3: I first started finding an attraction to other men when I was in my early teen years (12-14) I wouldn't say I was confused, but definitely in denial. I would always tell myself *it's not right, your supposed to only feel like this about women* So I continued with this thought process for few years, a friend of mine came out in high school that she was lesbian so, I talked to her about it, asking questions like how did she know? an such. She would always tell me *in private in a joking manner but serious at the same time* "Your gay" in the sense referring that I liked men, I was kinda speechless in my responses to her when ever she said that, I always denied it an said no.
It was like, how did she know? but at the same time I'm denying it to myself as well. Needless to say, I got very confused at this point an that's when I literally sat down and thought about it for a long time... I came to terms around this point that it's a fact that I find men attractive and there's nothing I can do about it, it's just how it is. I was 16-17 around this time, I eventually told her she was right, which resulted in a "I told you so!" response xD She of course didn't say anything to anyone about it an it was just between the two of us.
Through out the years later even though I knew this was something I couldn't change, it still bugged me for a long time since there was a lot of nonacceptance for these feelings. I acted straight, tried to force myself to be straight. It didn't work out. Guy's kept coming back into my mind, but I did find an attraction to women as well which just made things confusing. It was at a point where the group of friends I had were accepting of gay's an such but they were always like "You can't like both, it's one or the other" *None of them knew that I liked guy's aside from the 1 girl* So I fought it, an tried to figure out what I was. Was I gay or straight or something else? In the end I was attracted to both men an women equally. :3
Looking back on things now, even from a younger age I can see that I was always interested in both men an women. -I'm 26 now *.*-
As for coming out, I'm still "in the closet" to say the least. I've came out to a few people over the years and they've been cool about it, aside from one person... Who I believed to be my "best friend" at the time, after I told her, things... started to change between us a little each day an well we don't talk anymore... I can't say that's the reason 100% because she never really told me why, just shortly after things did start to change. Still hurts to think about that, but what's done is done right? :3 Gotta try an stay positive! All my other friends accept me for who I am ^_^ As to coming out to family, well I'm just not there yet. To be honest I don't know if I will be any time soon, perhaps one day, who knows!
Anyways! Uhm I hope you enjoyed reading my big wall of text! If you did read all of it haha! Take care everyone! I'm going to run an hide off FR for a while now~~ :3
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hA mY family is so homophobic becuase asians smh
But currently I'm a heterorelationship
Asexual Panromantic Genderfluid my children
hA mY family is so homophobic becuase asians smh
But currently I'm a heterorelationship
hA mY family is so homophobic becuase asians smh
But currently I'm a heterorelationship
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@WolfyGhostt
That was great !nuh dun run away u cute bean
And OMG I relate so much to this "buddy who says "you're gay" " for a friend of mine kept saying this when we got to know each other a bit (she was lesbian as well), it was a few years ago. Now I admit she was right, but it's a bit more intricate than "attracted to same gender" since I identify as genderfluid now... I like people tbh. When they don't trigger my anxiety at least... xd
@BlinkleBlueInk
I feel ya. Very traditional education n one parent a bit narrow-minded...
No way they'd react well to my ideal romantical situation... Or I missed something lul.
That was great !
And OMG I relate so much to this "buddy who says "you're gay" " for a friend of mine kept saying this when we got to know each other a bit (she was lesbian as well), it was a few years ago. Now I admit she was right, but it's a bit more intricate than "attracted to same gender" since I identify as genderfluid now... I like people tbh. When they don't trigger my anxiety at least... xd
@BlinkleBlueInk
I feel ya. Very traditional education n one parent a bit narrow-minded...
No way they'd react well to my ideal romantical situation... Or I missed something lul.
@WolfyGhostt
That was great !nuh dun run away u cute bean
And OMG I relate so much to this "buddy who says "you're gay" " for a friend of mine kept saying this when we got to know each other a bit (she was lesbian as well), it was a few years ago. Now I admit she was right, but it's a bit more intricate than "attracted to same gender" since I identify as genderfluid now... I like people tbh. When they don't trigger my anxiety at least... xd
@BlinkleBlueInk
I feel ya. Very traditional education n one parent a bit narrow-minded...
No way they'd react well to my ideal romantical situation... Or I missed something lul.
That was great !
And OMG I relate so much to this "buddy who says "you're gay" " for a friend of mine kept saying this when we got to know each other a bit (she was lesbian as well), it was a few years ago. Now I admit she was right, but it's a bit more intricate than "attracted to same gender" since I identify as genderfluid now... I like people tbh. When they don't trigger my anxiety at least... xd
@BlinkleBlueInk
I feel ya. Very traditional education n one parent a bit narrow-minded...
No way they'd react well to my ideal romantical situation... Or I missed something lul.
Okay, so here's the extremely delayed update about my coming out (as a guy).
I'm in Oklahoma (by myself, no other family with me) at the moment, and I'll be here for another 20 days. I knew about this month-long trip for a year, so I've been planning to come out now since. I wrote a pretty short note listing the basic details, like dysphoria/self harm/blah blah, and slipped it under my pillow for when I left. Anyways, I texted them and they read it.
So far, so good. I'm not sure their exact thoughts about it, or what they will/will not let me do, because we both want to talk about it now, but we decided to talk about it when we get home.
They haven't said anything aggressive. They've been fairly kind and assuring, saying I can trust them and I'm safe. But then, we haven't talked that much.
The only thing that flipped my switch was this text from mom.
"I am speechless as to what to say or think about your self-perception.
I know what God has in His Word. I will cling to Him as we work through this together."
But, hey. This is exactly the crap I was expecting from her, and I'm not going to be angry over one thing since they are being overall so understanding.
In short, I don't know of they are going to let me do any transitioning because we haven't talked about it. My fear that they will retaliate is defeated, however. And that's the important part.
Hopefully it'll go well when we talk after I get back. I'll tell you guys what happens.
I'm in Oklahoma (by myself, no other family with me) at the moment, and I'll be here for another 20 days. I knew about this month-long trip for a year, so I've been planning to come out now since. I wrote a pretty short note listing the basic details, like dysphoria/self harm/blah blah, and slipped it under my pillow for when I left. Anyways, I texted them and they read it.
So far, so good. I'm not sure their exact thoughts about it, or what they will/will not let me do, because we both want to talk about it now, but we decided to talk about it when we get home.
They haven't said anything aggressive. They've been fairly kind and assuring, saying I can trust them and I'm safe. But then, we haven't talked that much.
The only thing that flipped my switch was this text from mom.
"I am speechless as to what to say or think about your self-perception.
I know what God has in His Word. I will cling to Him as we work through this together."
But, hey. This is exactly the crap I was expecting from her, and I'm not going to be angry over one thing since they are being overall so understanding.
In short, I don't know of they are going to let me do any transitioning because we haven't talked about it. My fear that they will retaliate is defeated, however. And that's the important part.
Hopefully it'll go well when we talk after I get back. I'll tell you guys what happens.
Okay, so here's the extremely delayed update about my coming out (as a guy).
I'm in Oklahoma (by myself, no other family with me) at the moment, and I'll be here for another 20 days. I knew about this month-long trip for a year, so I've been planning to come out now since. I wrote a pretty short note listing the basic details, like dysphoria/self harm/blah blah, and slipped it under my pillow for when I left. Anyways, I texted them and they read it.
So far, so good. I'm not sure their exact thoughts about it, or what they will/will not let me do, because we both want to talk about it now, but we decided to talk about it when we get home.
They haven't said anything aggressive. They've been fairly kind and assuring, saying I can trust them and I'm safe. But then, we haven't talked that much.
The only thing that flipped my switch was this text from mom.
"I am speechless as to what to say or think about your self-perception.
I know what God has in His Word. I will cling to Him as we work through this together."
But, hey. This is exactly the crap I was expecting from her, and I'm not going to be angry over one thing since they are being overall so understanding.
In short, I don't know of they are going to let me do any transitioning because we haven't talked about it. My fear that they will retaliate is defeated, however. And that's the important part.
Hopefully it'll go well when we talk after I get back. I'll tell you guys what happens.
I'm in Oklahoma (by myself, no other family with me) at the moment, and I'll be here for another 20 days. I knew about this month-long trip for a year, so I've been planning to come out now since. I wrote a pretty short note listing the basic details, like dysphoria/self harm/blah blah, and slipped it under my pillow for when I left. Anyways, I texted them and they read it.
So far, so good. I'm not sure their exact thoughts about it, or what they will/will not let me do, because we both want to talk about it now, but we decided to talk about it when we get home.
They haven't said anything aggressive. They've been fairly kind and assuring, saying I can trust them and I'm safe. But then, we haven't talked that much.
The only thing that flipped my switch was this text from mom.
"I am speechless as to what to say or think about your self-perception.
I know what God has in His Word. I will cling to Him as we work through this together."
But, hey. This is exactly the crap I was expecting from her, and I'm not going to be angry over one thing since they are being overall so understanding.
In short, I don't know of they are going to let me do any transitioning because we haven't talked about it. My fear that they will retaliate is defeated, however. And that's the important part.
Hopefully it'll go well when we talk after I get back. I'll tell you guys what happens.
Aye. That sounds like a mixed bag, but a win for defeating one fear. Wishing you the best on that journey!!
@Wisea
A mixed bag, indeed. That could have gone better, but it could have gone worse. At least they aren't being overtly aggressive about it. I hope your mother accepts you, though. That text... I'd be worried. Then again, I read too much between the lines sometimes, so I'm not the best person to ask for advice on reading other people. As long as they're trying to be understanding, you're in decent straits. And it sounds like you were expecting nonsense like that, so you're doing well.
Happy coming out, and I'm glad it didn't go terribly wrong for you.
A mixed bag, indeed. That could have gone better, but it could have gone worse. At least they aren't being overtly aggressive about it. I hope your mother accepts you, though. That text... I'd be worried. Then again, I read too much between the lines sometimes, so I'm not the best person to ask for advice on reading other people. As long as they're trying to be understanding, you're in decent straits. And it sounds like you were expecting nonsense like that, so you're doing well.
Happy coming out, and I'm glad it didn't go terribly wrong for you.
@Wisea
A mixed bag, indeed. That could have gone better, but it could have gone worse. At least they aren't being overtly aggressive about it. I hope your mother accepts you, though. That text... I'd be worried. Then again, I read too much between the lines sometimes, so I'm not the best person to ask for advice on reading other people. As long as they're trying to be understanding, you're in decent straits. And it sounds like you were expecting nonsense like that, so you're doing well.
Happy coming out, and I'm glad it didn't go terribly wrong for you.
A mixed bag, indeed. That could have gone better, but it could have gone worse. At least they aren't being overtly aggressive about it. I hope your mother accepts you, though. That text... I'd be worried. Then again, I read too much between the lines sometimes, so I'm not the best person to ask for advice on reading other people. As long as they're trying to be understanding, you're in decent straits. And it sounds like you were expecting nonsense like that, so you're doing well.
Happy coming out, and I'm glad it didn't go terribly wrong for you.
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@SorcererMidnight the "self perception" part of her text really ticks me off, honestly. Because I made it very, very clear that my "perception" of myself is based off of the mind crushing dysphoria I experience every goddamn day, not a choice I made. And she, who has blatantly told me she thinks being trans is a choice, is basically spitting in my face when she says that.
And yeah, it's exactly the nonsense I expect from her. I'm not "anti-religon" by any means, but she is the kind of religious junky who'd rather sacrifice her relationship with her child then be a accepting person. The kind of person that even other religious folks are put off by.
My Dad? He's not the same story. I didn't get any of that backhanded nonsense from him. I got affirming "its not about us" and lots of "your safe with us" from him. I got nothing the like from my mother. I don't think they are on the same page, honestly.
And yeah, it's exactly the nonsense I expect from her. I'm not "anti-religon" by any means, but she is the kind of religious junky who'd rather sacrifice her relationship with her child then be a accepting person. The kind of person that even other religious folks are put off by.
My Dad? He's not the same story. I didn't get any of that backhanded nonsense from him. I got affirming "its not about us" and lots of "your safe with us" from him. I got nothing the like from my mother. I don't think they are on the same page, honestly.
@SorcererMidnight the "self perception" part of her text really ticks me off, honestly. Because I made it very, very clear that my "perception" of myself is based off of the mind crushing dysphoria I experience every goddamn day, not a choice I made. And she, who has blatantly told me she thinks being trans is a choice, is basically spitting in my face when she says that.
And yeah, it's exactly the nonsense I expect from her. I'm not "anti-religon" by any means, but she is the kind of religious junky who'd rather sacrifice her relationship with her child then be a accepting person. The kind of person that even other religious folks are put off by.
My Dad? He's not the same story. I didn't get any of that backhanded nonsense from him. I got affirming "its not about us" and lots of "your safe with us" from him. I got nothing the like from my mother. I don't think they are on the same page, honestly.
And yeah, it's exactly the nonsense I expect from her. I'm not "anti-religon" by any means, but she is the kind of religious junky who'd rather sacrifice her relationship with her child then be a accepting person. The kind of person that even other religious folks are put off by.
My Dad? He's not the same story. I didn't get any of that backhanded nonsense from him. I got affirming "its not about us" and lots of "your safe with us" from him. I got nothing the like from my mother. I don't think they are on the same page, honestly.