I dunno I just wanted to start this up. Please note this isn't a thread to trash talk the younger members of the site or anything, but rather this is for anyone to discuss how they feel about babies or kids and the prospects of parenthood (at least for those of us who are older).
Me personally, I have such a hard time around babies. Kids are easier, but babies are the worst. It's weird though, because I'm not opposed to the idea of being pregnant and doing the raising with someone, but I also don't want to raise a baby. Just... No.
Even weirder is I'm strongly defensive of babies and when I hear about violence towards babies and children it hurts me as hard as hearing about violence towards animals.
Yet I cannot interact with babies, absolutely never want to hold on, and when babies cry I can't help but repeat in my head "I don't want kids I don't want kids I don't want kids." Really any noise kids make can evoke that reaction from me. I don't get sick looking at them, but I am a bit repulsed by them. I can bring myself to entertain my one year old nephew for about a minute before I'm like "okay I'm done."
As parenthood goes, I think the biggest reason I'm anti-having kids right now is because I'm still living at home and all, and my main goal is independence, and having kids is, well, the opposite of freedom. But I suppose if I still feel the same way when I'm on my own and like, idk, 25 or 30, I'll probably avoid having kids. Because as much as the idea of not having kids and sharing my wonderful genetic material (aka my red hair lol, I'm don't actually believe I have THE BEST DNA, especially since I'd probably pass on my ADD) makes me sad, I get more sad at the thought of not having the freedom to just live my life with whomever I happen to marry.
I dunno I just wanted to start this up. Please note this isn't a thread to trash talk the younger members of the site or anything, but rather this is for anyone to discuss how they feel about babies or kids and the prospects of parenthood (at least for those of us who are older).
Me personally, I have such a hard time around babies. Kids are easier, but babies are the worst. It's weird though, because I'm not opposed to the idea of being pregnant and doing the raising with someone, but I also don't want to raise a baby. Just... No.
Even weirder is I'm strongly defensive of babies and when I hear about violence towards babies and children it hurts me as hard as hearing about violence towards animals.
Yet I cannot interact with babies, absolutely never want to hold on, and when babies cry I can't help but repeat in my head "I don't want kids I don't want kids I don't want kids." Really any noise kids make can evoke that reaction from me. I don't get sick looking at them, but I am a bit repulsed by them. I can bring myself to entertain my one year old nephew for about a minute before I'm like "okay I'm done."
As parenthood goes, I think the biggest reason I'm anti-having kids right now is because I'm still living at home and all, and my main goal is independence, and having kids is, well, the opposite of freedom. But I suppose if I still feel the same way when I'm on my own and like, idk, 25 or 30, I'll probably avoid having kids. Because as much as the idea of not having kids and sharing my wonderful genetic material (aka my red hair lol, I'm don't actually believe I have THE BEST DNA, especially since I'd probably pass on my ADD) makes me sad, I get more sad at the thought of not having the freedom to just live my life with whomever I happen to marry.
I'm the same way. I don't like babies or young kids under 16. Never wanted one yet here I am with the unwanted ability to get preggo =/ Thank god there's ways around that now like an IUD.
I'm the same way. I don't like babies or young kids under 16. Never wanted one yet here I am with the unwanted ability to get preggo =/ Thank god there's ways around that now like an IUD.
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Yeah. I'm more than happy to be able to have sex, but I might try to get my tubes tied or get an IUD. My doc recommends and IUD
and actually has one herself, but my sister says she's heard bad things about em, so idk. But if I hit 30 and don't want kids, or maybe 35, idk, I'll definitely get some kind of permanent birth control so I don't have to worry.
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Dani94
Yeah. I'm more than happy to be able to have sex, but I might try to get my tubes tied or get an IUD. My doc recommends and IUD
and actually has one herself, but my sister says she's heard bad things about em, so idk. But if I hit 30 and don't want kids, or maybe 35, idk, I'll definitely get some kind of permanent birth control so I don't have to worry.
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KitKatPurrpurr: I have one too! They're..interesting. I thought I was going to get it removed during the first month due to all the stuff it was causing, but now things are pretty normal after that adjustment period. So far so good, but I hear there's always potential for somethng with the hormonal balance to change. I'd say it's worth trying especially if it's free tbh, it's great now.
Yeah I wanted a litigation, too, but ofc no one wants to do it on a 20 year old since 'that's too young' =/
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KitKatPurrpurr: I have one too! They're..interesting. I thought I was going to get it removed during the first month due to all the stuff it was causing, but now things are pretty normal after that adjustment period. So far so good, but I hear there's always potential for somethng with the hormonal balance to change. I'd say it's worth trying especially if it's free tbh, it's great now.
Yeah I wanted a litigation, too, but ofc no one wants to do it on a 20 year old since 'that's too young' =/
I like babies and kids - sometimes.
I don't want any for myself, at all.
I like babies and kids - sometimes.
I don't want any for myself, at all.
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Yikes no. I can not do babies. They're noisy and gross and look like little alins. Plus, the idea of growing some parasitic creature for nine months Is just so unappealing. I don't really have a problem with kids once they get old enough to mostly take care of themselves, I work at a summer camp, but I could not imagine raising my own.
Plus, my genetics are the equivalent of a gigantic train wreck. History of cancer, heart problems, and a cocktail of disorders on both sides of the family. Natural selection would not be kind to me, so I'm not actively looking to pass on these genes.
Yikes no. I can not do babies. They're noisy and gross and look like little alins. Plus, the idea of growing some parasitic creature for nine months Is just so unappealing. I don't really have a problem with kids once they get old enough to mostly take care of themselves, I work at a summer camp, but I could not imagine raising my own.
Plus, my genetics are the equivalent of a gigantic train wreck. History of cancer, heart problems, and a cocktail of disorders on both sides of the family. Natural selection would not be kind to me, so I'm not actively looking to pass on these genes.
I like kids but not my own.Most people seem to adhere to the assumption that because one is ok with kids that they want their own and while I love animals, adore them even I have never had any desire to have kids.
I like kids to a degree. I think they're cute, and yes, I can take care of them, but that doesn't necessarily mean I want any of my own. Pregnancy has always terrified me and while I can deal with other people's kids that's because I know that I don't have to constantly interact with the kid 24/7. At the end of the day, the kid/kids go back to their own parents.
Anywho, I'm almost 30 as is( 29 currently) and in all that time I have NEVER ONCE had the desire to have kids though my mother seems to believe that once I hold ANY BABY I'll get some strange motherly instinct out of nowhere and suddenly want them.
I've actually gotten in arguments with her about it because not having kids in Chinese culture is pretty much akin to blasphemy almost. The fact that I have no desire to marry or have kids is tantamount to horrible disrespect of Chinese culture to my mother.
I like kids but not my own.Most people seem to adhere to the assumption that because one is ok with kids that they want their own and while I love animals, adore them even I have never had any desire to have kids.
I like kids to a degree. I think they're cute, and yes, I can take care of them, but that doesn't necessarily mean I want any of my own. Pregnancy has always terrified me and while I can deal with other people's kids that's because I know that I don't have to constantly interact with the kid 24/7. At the end of the day, the kid/kids go back to their own parents.
Anywho, I'm almost 30 as is( 29 currently) and in all that time I have NEVER ONCE had the desire to have kids though my mother seems to believe that once I hold ANY BABY I'll get some strange motherly instinct out of nowhere and suddenly want them.
I've actually gotten in arguments with her about it because not having kids in Chinese culture is pretty much akin to blasphemy almost. The fact that I have no desire to marry or have kids is tantamount to horrible disrespect of Chinese culture to my mother.
Voici mon secret. Il est très simple: on ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.- Le petit prince.
i can't stand babies. never have been able to. something about looking at them makes me nauseous and the sounds they make can elicit some very worrying reactions from me if i'm being honest.
once they're old enough to walk and talk i don't have much of a problem with them, but i still don't want one. i like them when they belong to other people. and i mean i'd be totally down for babysitting and day trips and in general being the cool aunt when my older cousins go off and have babies, but i don't want to be responsible for them for more than a couple hours at a time.
also the idea of physically being pregnant is something i literally have nightmares about. one of the most disgusting things i can even imagine is being in late pregnancy and actually being able to see the baby moving in my stomach. i can't even articulate how horrifying that is to me.
if i ever decide i want kids, which i doubt considering my opinion of them hasn't changed in eighteen years, i'd definitely go the adoption route. i'm super ace anyway so the act of making the baby is not something i'd miss, and not enough to make it worth the nine months and hours of agony it'd take to produce the little fleshbag.
i can't stand babies. never have been able to. something about looking at them makes me nauseous and the sounds they make can elicit some very worrying reactions from me if i'm being honest.
once they're old enough to walk and talk i don't have much of a problem with them, but i still don't want one. i like them when they belong to other people. and i mean i'd be totally down for babysitting and day trips and in general being the cool aunt when my older cousins go off and have babies, but i don't want to be responsible for them for more than a couple hours at a time.
also the idea of physically being pregnant is something i literally have nightmares about. one of the most disgusting things i can even imagine is being in late pregnancy and actually being able to see the baby moving in my stomach. i can't even articulate how horrifying that is to me.
if i ever decide i want kids, which i doubt considering my opinion of them hasn't changed in eighteen years, i'd definitely go the adoption route. i'm super ace anyway so the act of making the baby is not something i'd miss, and not enough to make it worth the nine months and hours of agony it'd take to produce the little fleshbag.
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I like kids, but kids...I dunno. They all give me really weird reactions. Some will laugh at me, some will stare, some just stop talking and look back at their parents, and some just point out the fact that I'm weird. It's very confusing! I never get a normal reaction out of kids. .__.
I do NOT want any kids to come out/from me. I have a few too many issues that I'd be afraid to pass on. But I DO want to adopt kids. I've wanted to since I was little. (Why make more children, when there are already children without parents?) But that'll be much later in life for me. (I'm just 24)
But that all depends on how well I do with all my issues. =\
I like kids, but kids...I dunno. They all give me really weird reactions. Some will laugh at me, some will stare, some just stop talking and look back at their parents, and some just point out the fact that I'm weird. It's very confusing! I never get a normal reaction out of kids. .__.
I do NOT want any kids to come out/from me. I have a few too many issues that I'd be afraid to pass on. But I DO want to adopt kids. I've wanted to since I was little. (Why make more children, when there are already children without parents?) But that'll be much later in life for me. (I'm just 24)
But that all depends on how well I do with all my issues. =\